I try telling myself some of the he following: "No we aren't going there", "you are ok, it we don't have to listen to I that" or "you are ok and this will pass". I say this to myself internally a few times and it usually helps.

Ugh! I hate getting caught up in my thoughts! My "girl brain" loves to remind me that I'm a crappy mom, a fat & disappointing girlfriend, I'm pathetic... all of it all of the time and all of the crap. Sing. Get a song stuck in your head keep on it, add a few more. Keep the TV on to a funny show... something to help push the thoughts to the backgroung. Talk to someone. Having someone that can understand when your brain is not being very nice to you, understand that you don't need a fixer but need a listener, a shoulder or if you need it, a cell mate!

Music. Distraction. Praying. Conversation.

Let the thought pass though, don't try to make it go away or argue with it.

Respond to them like they’re just an annoying person whose advice you wouldn’t take. Like a relative telling you why you need to have kids/get married soon or asking why you haven’t.