My thought is to kind of talk around it? Like tell them you’re autistic, and ask if anyone else in the family is autistic 👀

They refuse to tell me any of it so I have to find it out as I go. They refuse therapy but show strong symptoms. Well enough adjusted and represed to function as humans but emotionally closed off.

I mentioned to my mom that I thought my dad might be adhd and she said it didn't matter. I disagree as that has a genetic component. I'm not sure how to broach the subject with him

I tried to be subtle about it and then I tried to be in their face about it, and neither worked for my parents, they simply didn't care enough to learn more about it (despite me being diagnosed with it🙄) and feel as if it doesn't matter since they've gone their whole lives not knowing and "coping" (quotes added by me because it's total bs)

Thanks so much for all the comments. I got an official diagnosis and made a joke about it to my dad in a text. He was super sweet and it's become a new way for us to connect

When I got my soft diagnosis (and was scheduled for an official) I mentioned to my parents how this is not just about me and brought up the statistics of mothers passing the gene or what have you onto their children. Since I have children, this worked and luckily made my mom think but I had also sent articles asking if they thought Autistic traits fit me throughout life. That was what made my dad think. Now they both claim tp be Autistic and I believe them after listening to them. Fortunately, they both have said that they do not want to take away from me but I have pushed for us to move through this together. So, maybe find some ways to drop some knowledge that might sink in and hit home? And if it doesn't, you tried. Good luck and congratulations 🎊