Can you elaborate on what you mean by control issues?

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They mean obsession with control or lack thereof; obsessive overthinking and over-analyzing every situation to assess it from every angle to mentally walk the path of where what every decision ends up at, so you can decide which decision to actually make which will lead you down the path to the most appropriate outcome that aligns with what you're looking for, from each and every experience, with anything, ever. Even comparing two peanut butters at the stupid grocery store for 10 mins to decide which has the best calorie value for your money but then also health concerns re: additives but also like "should I just get one and enjoy life and stop this nonsense? Why do I do th— —oh, I'm sorry, am I in your way?" Just a guess. Yes, annafaye... I do and i see you.

This usually goes hand in hand with abandonment issues, or terrible parenting that never gave you any concrete answers or decisions nor helped you through any particular problems to give you a sense of stability. IMHE and what my team of therapists have told me.

you’re completely right ^ my dad was absent in my childhood years.