I tried to get assessed and was told because I was married, had an "average number of sexual partners for my age" apparently one partner at 23 is average which isn't statistically true but whatever doc, and wouldn't hold my arm in ice for a long time they wouldn't even evaluate me for autism. My therapist and one other doctor I interact with regularly for two years agree I'm autistic so I'm comfortable using the lablel. I also know living my life as a person who believes theyre autistic has made my life better. So I guess do the benefits outweigh the possible struggle and invalidation you may receive? If so go for it, if not self diagnosis hurts no one and helps you. I get a couple work accommodations and no one has asked for proof of diagnosis.

Not being believed by doctors is so painful. I hope it all goes smoothly for you!!! I’m still not sure if I want to go through the process of being diagnosed