Ugh. It’s the worst. I’m wanting to change things so I got Dr. Daniel Fox’s BPD workbook and I try to do it. It’s important to note that your BPD does NOT want you to change. And you are absolutely NOT alone.

I got misdiagnosed with bipolar as well. It's really been helping me to take meds and take notes on changes I'm noticing. BPD really can rule your life but it doesn't define who you are. I'm here if you need to talk.

I find that DBT workbooks are quite helpful! My medications help regulate my mood, so the swings aren’t as drastic or frequent. I also like to educate those close to me. When I first got my diagnosis, I bought my mom a book titled “I Hate You—Please Don’t Leave Me” and it essentially attempts to help the reader understand BPD. My relationship with her has only gotten better after that. But you also have to work to recognize your BPD traits and what works best for you to handle them. And don’t be afraid to ask loved ones for a little help from time to time. Affirmation and validation from a loved one is some of the best medicine, I’ve found. 😁

I thought I had bipolar and when I came out with a BPD diagnosis it was rough. I felt very broken. DBT with a wonderful therapist has been a godsend, as well as taking an antidepressant in conjunction with an antipsychotic. Things felt so broken and like I couldn't keep relationships or myself together, but it does get better and you can learn skills to regulate your emotional responses.