My primary care PA doesn't consider my depression and anxiety to be debilitating enough, and basically tells me to fight through it so I can keep being an upstanding tax paying member of society. Considering what I've gone through though, I would consider myself mentally disabled. Any doctor will tell you your obesity doesn't make you disabled, and act like it's super simple to slim down. However, health issues that come from being obese would definitely make you disabled. But that's just my opinion.

Hello 👋 I am someone who has a disability(juvenile psoriatic arthritis) and about the part where you mention being hesitant to admit you are actually disabled is so true especially for younger people I had to fight for years to get a proper diagnosis and a doctor to care enough to actually listen to me to actually receive the proper care I needed. I hope you are able to find a doctor who actually listens to you soon❤️