I always go some where were I know what's on the menu.

Even though it’s not something you should have to worry about I know what you mean. I always start with an Eminem diss by mentioning I am going to be complicated before I even start. It gives the waiter time to pull out their notebook and provides a giggle instead of a glare. Hopefully it’s not your friends/family glaring at you cause that’s just straight up disrespectful.

I always look up the menu before hand and already have decided what I'm getting to take some of the panic/ anxiety away. An make a plan of what I'm going to say an ask so I come off more confident