Actually this sounds a lot like me! When I was younger, I only had stress related symptoms, but now I deal with it almost every day. If you really feel like you can't give up coffee, I would try eliminating some other common ibs triggers (ie. Gluten or lactose) or other high fodmap foods you feel like you can let go of. Hopefully then you would see a little improvement!

Could you switch to decaf coffee? If it's the taste you're after, that should satisfy it. Caffeine in any form is a common IBS trigger. And yes, stress and anxiety are known to exasperate symptoms of IBS. Mine also started as only when I was anxious and evolved into the full syndrome in time. To ease my symptoms, I went gluten free and vegan. I still have a single cup of coffee most days. For some reason, brewed coffee tends to irritate my GERD but instant expresso doesn't (maybe since lower caffeine content?) Now I rarely ever have a flare unless I ate something I shouldn't have

It seems that stress always made/still makes me run to the bathroom. I also have IBS, so I understand. Wherever I go, I have to know that a restroom is nearby.

What do you guys take to control the urge to go to the bathroom so much? In my case, I've been years taking the generic brand of Immodium. I take 6 of them almost every single day to be able to work, because if I don't, I'll be in the bathroom all day.