I was born with Bladder Exstrophy and have suffered from incontinence all my life because of it. I have been publicly shamed in the past for wearing diapers by kids who were younger than me... It's a trauma I've carried with me all my life, even at the age of 20, I still vividly remember the way so many people would often misunderstand me and question me for wearing diapers. Nowadays, I finally stopped wearing depends during the day and rarely only use them at night. During the day, I only use thick pads, and rarely have accidents 😁 The best way to cope is to wear clothing that isn't too tight around your bladder, such as: Underwear, pants, shorts, ect. And to remind yourself that there are people out there of all ages, who go through the same thing on a daily basis ❤️