I try my best to go in with a "i don't give a fuck" mentality if i can't hide it all under my clothing or really want to wear something cute that doesn't hide it. The people who care about you will understand that this is a part of your life. The people who don't care enough to understand don't deserve your time. Though, this is something i struggle with a lot too. Especially during the summer where i live since it gets super hot and i want to be in tank tops more. Do i understand your concern and hesitation

I’m a guy, and I’m not very understanding of the feelings your going for here, but I do believe that anything beyond your control is something you should not be ashamed of whatsoever. That’s who you are, and you can’t change that, so why hide it? The people you want getting close to you should be people who know you and shouldn’t be people that you need to hide things from anyways.

Yes raspberries its hard in the summer. I want to wear tank tops too, it gets over 100 degrees here 😫 thank you so much for your encouragement ❤

Thank you Lilocnr I've never really thought of it as something I can't really control because I try to control it all the time but its honestly something I can't undue I just have to do the best I can. And yes thats a good reminder that the people close to me shouldn't be the kind of people that I feel I have to hide things from 🤗

I struggle with this too! My confidence is gone now. My HS is between my thighs which is very intimate. I don't feel sexy anymore or feminine. I also don't know how to "get past it." If it were that easy I would have years ago.

I struggled with this for a few years after my surgeries for sure. I have horrible scars in my armpits but I learned to embrace it over time slowly and now I wear tank tops all summer