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Arnbjorn

Updated 1y ago

Living Through My Friend: Coping with Disability

Does anyone else live through their friends, since they can't go out and live like an able-bodied person? My friend is in another state than me, and he always walks me through his days, so I can feel like I am able to live my life without restrictions. Most days I can't get out of bed, physically or mentally, and it's been quite nice to be able to live through him. Shout-out to my buddy Alex for letting me live through him.

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AnimalBoy

2y

Mu roommate comes in every night and vents about his days at work- good or bad. It's his way of processing everything that happened to him and hold on to important stuff from the day but it also gives me something to focus on that makes me feel like I've had an eventful day even when I really really haven't
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Arnbjorn

2y

That's very interesting to hear about!
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LadyCracking

2y

No, to me that would cause one to become depress and oppressed. This is how I look @ life and situation, my life hasn't stopped, it's slowed down yes but hasn't stopped, as long as I'm able to do, I will do!!!!!!!! Maybe slower than before but as long as I'm moving.. I will live and not through others, this is my mindset
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LadyCracking

2y

But I do understand what you mean Arnbjo,
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alexander1023

2y

I am having such a hard time with work I have pandas and got just about all the damn symptoms. Torrents, epilepsy, mood disorder. I also have autism ,adhd and arthritis. All of this causes severe depression and anxiety. And I have a fmla for work but I dont get the paid leave because I'm part time it just excuses my absences but they never schedule me anymore I get maybe one day a week and if I have a seizure that day I just get no money. And getting disability in the us is extremely hard. And I would have to battle for it I am just not able to do all of that. So here comes the frustration I have a fmla for pandas but they only think I have seizures because most of the time my meds take care of the tourette's and mood disorder I have told them otherwise and i dont think they believe me but sometimes my mood crashes before work and that causes anxiety to rise and so does my tourette's so I have to call out of work and I have tryed telling them that I am having a episode with my mood disorder and tourette's but they always respond with a sarcastic voice and that makes the situation 10 times worse. So almost every time I just tell them I had a seizure to avoid extra stress of their ignorance. Am I an asshole for this. I kinda feel like I'm lying but at the same time if I dont people will talk shit behind my back. Also yes I'm looking for a different job but it's not going great. They see disability and are less likely to hire me whether its against the law or not. Wich brings me to another problem I feel like I'm gonna get fired because of how often I call out, yes it's illegal to discriminate but in florida they do not need to give a reason to fire me they can just tell me it didnt work out and if I try to sue I basically have no case.
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alexander1023

2y

Sorry that was alot disnt mean to just like even on here

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