I'm a girl but I’m new too! Can I ask why you would prefer a guy? I just need to say, maybe don't look for a guy right now…you may end up in a trauma bond. Unfortunately, you might attract men who are going to manipulate you. Sadly, I’m married, and I met my husband way before I ever learned about healing and trauma.. The majority of my experiences with men in my life have been terrible.. and I could never figure out why.. but now I understand that it’s because manipulative people can sense where we are vulnerable.. I was desperate and lonely when I met him, and I have been happy with breadcrumbs because it was better than nothing… Then, eight years later in early recovery, I was in my most vulnerable state… and I truly believed that the men who came to me genuinely wanted friendship. I have always gotten along better with men and I always had guy friends.. so I didn’t think anything of it… but they saw that I was new in recovery, naive, hurting, and vulnerable. Narcissists eat me up, they love me. People like me (and maybe you) are the perfect target for narcissists and other types of manipulative people. ☹️ with our high empathy and low self-esteem, we are very forgiving, understanding, have weak boundaries, willing to do anything for the people we love..