Yes. Switching can oftentimes be a form of escape from stressful situations and unfortunately conflicts like that definitely qualify. For us we really have to keep up system responsibility during those times, because even though it may not be whichever alter that snapped, it can still have hurtful consequences to the other person. Especially if it's a switch where we don't know what was said.

Thank you I’m still trying to figure out coping mechanisms for personality switches.

Yes. Switching under stress can cause memory gaps and its completely normal. The only thing you can do is hold your system responsible as a whole and if someone lost patience with someone even if you dont remember just apologize and work thru it. It will all be ok.

yep, totally normal!