@EG hi! I’ve had lupus for almost 20 years, and it does get better, I promise! You learn how to live with it, how to reduce your flares, and how to get them under control quickly by listening to your body. I also highly recommend therapy. The Lupus Foundation of America can recommend a support group in your area (if you are in the United States or Canada) and there are probably local lupus organizations near you as well. When I was first diagnosed, I went to their support group and it helped me tremendously!! But also think about finding a therapist who specializes in chronic illness. The one I see is amazing! There’s also a great book called When Lupus Throws You For A Loop by Donna Oram and that has helped me and others I know so, so much!! She has lupus too, so she really understands what we go through. You can do this! Hang in there and reach out for the help you need. You’ve got this!!