Lol @EnergizerBunny we've all had it all our lives—its a neurodevelopmental disorder, you can't acquire it 😝🙃 (Though that being said—the resultant traits from TBI can be SHOCKINGLY similar).
I was diagnosed Severe Combined-Type Complex ADHD last August at the cusp of 33, plus heavy cPTSD+PTSD which I was well aware of. In January followed my Autism diagnosis and the entire story of my life became crystal clear. I'm still in that diagnostic evaluation, by the way. Wednesday is visit #9. Evidently I have more letters to disambiguate. 2 weeks ago, my Vocational Rehab rep dx'd me with over 9 counts of TBI through the NE TBI Society's criteria . Things have become even clearer. I started 31hr/wk classes today for an IT Networking Admin & Cloud Security program I'm going to just conquer like Alexander. You can get through this!
The timer advice is KEY! 🗝️ #IBNU is our enemy! "Important But Not Urgent"
You have to give yourself a sense of urgency if something is only important but doesn't interest you, or you're not going to find the motivation to do it. Even fake timers work—we forget they're fake! 👍🤣 I know I'm NOT the only one here with clocks set ahead, by amounts of time I closed my eyes and button-smashed to achieve ignorance of ⏰. I literally forget that they run fast sometimes and it gets me running out the door 7 or 8 minutes early because I *just dont think to look at my watch* when I'm panicked for time! AND WELL "8 mins early" to me is more like "8 mins earl-IER" aka "probably almost on time" 🤣😭⚰️
I'd HIGHLY suggest watching some of How To ADHD on YouTube, literally most of my advice comes straight from her content (incl. #IBNU).
@cassquirrel (hehe ♡ the rodents in here) the "then I recognized all the past neglect and wept for the person I feel I could have been" thing is huge. Common to the ND experience, it seems, but a very important step to go through, nonetheless. Congrats for accepting it and moving on so (seemingly?) quickly! I cried for a month straight sbout it and typing this now still makes my eyes glossy.
I manage motivation and sleep directly through the use of stimulant medication, specifically Vyvanse for me. My GeneSight test showed that half the ADHD medications will be ineffective for me, so I'm lucky to have found the thing that works first. But I've had lifelong seriously medically-frightening sleep problems, so even just sleeping every night of the week, let alone being on an actual schedule I can expect, is huge for me and changed a lot of things.