I haven't found a combination yet either. I will say that while I haven't bought one yet, I did test out a hybrid purple mattress at a mattress store and it was the only one I've tried so far that didn't immediately hurt all my joints. That said, I've no idea how it would work longterm. If you find something, *please* let me know!

Pillows are you bestfriend! I have to put one between my knees and prop my shoulder if I'm gonna try sleeping on my side! I have several different pillows, some thick some thinner depending on what's comfortable