I’m 19 and in college, but I still live with my parents due to medical issues. I see a therapist weekly, because often with chronic illness and pain comes mental health issues (definitely the case for me). Today, he told me he had received an email from my parents with some updates and concerns. He didn’t respond because I’m 19 and haven’t signed a release for them, but I’m still really frustrated about this. They did this a lot with the therapist I saw in high school too, but I was hoping that would change now that I’m an adult. I politely asked them to not contact my therapist in the future, and my mom got super defensive and cried. I understand their concern, a lot has happened and I’ve been in the hospital more than most people (for physical stuff), but I also function as a largely independent adult. I have straight A’s in my college classes, go to appointments and extracurriculars by myself, keep my own calendar, help with cooking and housework,etc. but it’s like they still see me as a high schooler even though I’m in college and legally an adult now. How can I help them understand this without offending them? I love them and mostly like living with them.