Don't hate yourself for it. I know just saying that doesn't do any good, but I know what you're feeling, and it's not worth it to let this define you. I struggled with picking my scalp for all of last year, and I wasn't able to stop. It got to the point that my scalp was always raw and open wounds so that no one would want to even braid my hair. The thing is, the more you think about it, the more likely you are to do it. If you learn to accept yourself how you are, you won't care what others think, which may help with the anxiety portion. One thing that helped me was keeping my hands busy with a fidget toy. I also had people around me who were willing to call me out when they noticed me picking. I don't know if this is any help, but just know that you are not your struggles. You can overcome this, and it doesn't make you any less valuable or beautiful.

Hi! I feel the most important thing with understanding trich is understanding it’s not something YOU are doing it’s a disorder that is triggered by something. it can help by going through and figuring out common triggers in your life. For me stress or anxiety triggers mine and the key reason my trich was bad before I got to know it was because I was stressing over my trich! So it was a constant loop I had to get out of slowly. I started to understand it’s not my fault and started teaching others about the disorder and to stick up for myself when others would belittle me because they didn’t understand. I did also find way to hide it which helped me not think about it as well until my eyelashes started growing back. But as you age you’ll find new ways to manage things in life and it will get better and manageable!