one thing to try doing is analyzing your actions vs their actions the next day and see if you think your behavior was justified and if it wasn’t try to approach the situation differently in the future

Brreeeeattthhhee! Using mindfulness.

Here is a coping skill I use. Talk to a counselor about the situation and ask which way would have been a better approach and try it then go back and tell him or her your results and ask for another advice until it works or until something different is done. Sometimes I have to stop talking to a certain person for a week or two. In order to gather myself together. And to think if it was worth talking to the person or not. Somethings I try to keep to myself and or my councilor. It’s just better that way.

What I like to do is take whatever reaction I want to have and put it off until the next day. I’ve found that my brain can’t handle “no” or “never” very well, but it can handle “later” just fine. So if I can tell I’m having a splitting reaction or a bipolar episode, I tell myself I can’t contact the person or do the behavior I want to do until 24 hours have passed, and if I still think it’s a good idea then, then I can do it. Usually by that time I’ve abandoned whatever reaction I wanted to have.