For me, it was after 2019/2020 that I tried to swear off relationships for a while. It didn't really work because I met my husband pretty much that year. I've noticed that when I'm independent/by myself when my husband's gone at work, i feel like myself. Being single would be ideal for me but I'm too scared to leave my husband because of my fear of abandonment.

I was single for 4 years, the longest I've ever been before I met my last partner. It was honestly an amazing time in my life... And honestly helped my BPD and symptoms. I focused A LOT more on myself after my initial heartbreak. I hyperfocus on my partners when I'm with them so relationships become very toxic very quickly for me. If you want to be single, go for it but set goals and boundaries with your therapist... And ask them to hold you accountable with sessions. You need professionals who will do this, not baby you (I found this hurtful, not helpful), just my imo. But it may be different for you. The only therapist that helped me in my entire 8 years of going was the one who held me accountable and he unfortunately left the facility.